Among to the joyous activities of the holiday season, many people face the challenge of coping with the loss of a loved one. The festive atmosphere can feel empty and painful. Emplify Health by Bellin encourages community members to understand the importance of acknowledging and supporting those who are grieving this time of year.
“Grieving during the holidays is a unique experience for everyone,” said Courtney Krolikowski, Emplify Health therapist. “It is essential to acknowledge your feelings to allow yourself to grieve in your own way. This could look like taking a break from social gatherings or finding new ways and traditions to honor your loved one. Above all, it’s crucial to prioritize your emotional well-being.”
For friends and family who are hosting gatherings or just looking for ways to support those grieving, here are a few ways to offer comfort and support.
• Be present and listen. It’s not what you say but rather that you’re there to listen that matters most.
• Avoid cliches. Phrases like “Time heals all wounds” or “You have to keep busy” can minimize a person’s feelings. Instead, offer genuine condolences and acknowledge the pain.
• Respect their boundaries. Allow them to decide how much they may want to participate in holiday activities. Be empathetic and patient with their decisions.
• Remind them that help is available. If you notice someone struggling to cope, offer suggestions for professional support of community resources.
“It’s OK to not be OK, especially during the holidays,” Krolikowski said. “Reaching out for support is a sign of strength, never weakness. Mental health providers are here to help you through the hard time. They will give you advice and a safe, non-judgmental place to find help.”
If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or grief during the holiday season, reach out for help. Emplify Health behavioral health team members are available 24/7 by calling 920-433-3630. Additionally, the National Suicide Hotline is always open to anyone who needs it by texting or calling 988.
